Why is it so hard to be self reflective?

Often, when I encourage my coaching clients to spend some time on self reflection, they look at me like “what are you talking about?”. Turns out self reflection is a skill many of us have never learned. I explain, self reflection is merely spending time asking ourselves important questions which others ask of us but we fail to ask ourselves. Of course, I encourage them to spend time actually answering the questions.

Last week I asked some of my clients to share with me the most important question they should be asking themselves at this moment. I was delighted with their responses and would like to share them with you.

• “Why don’t others in important positions see me as I see myself?”
• "How can I ensure I make every moment count?”
• “Am I totally nuts?!”
• “Am I a good listener?”
• “Do I take the time to understand other people’s needs and desires?”
• “Have I done something to ‘Pay it forward’ this week?”
• “Did I call my Mom and Dad to make sure they were OK?”
• “Did I set my weekly goal and then make sure I met or exceeded that goal for the week?”
• “Did I have life/work balance this week?”
• “In what ways have I been joyfully disciplined?”
• “What are the proven ways to focus and accomplish future goals?”
• “Where do I see myself in 5 years?”
• “Has anyone seen my phone?”

Your action step: What is the key question you should be asking yourself this week?
My request: Please share your questions in the comments so that I can compile them and post them for everyone to use.